Daily Prompt: Flip Flop
Posted by michelle w.Think of a topic or issue about which you’ve switched your opinion. Why the change? Photographers, artists, poets: show us TRANSITION.
“I would rather be pleasantly surprised then fatally disappointed”
This is a little tough because being a woman it’s my prerogative to change my mind and often so the gears in my brain are shifting rapidly through the brain files trying to find a suitable answer.
A topic I have struggled with greatly is “Expectations”
I don’t feel I have unreal expectations for people. I expect that people will try to do their best and be accountable to their roles and for their actions. I expect that people will do as they say they are going to do and keep their promises. I expect that if a situation arises that makes it impossible for them to fulfill a duty that they will make a reasonable effort to cover it. I expect that these “situations” will not arise frequently.
I expect that this is not to much to expect but I am wrong. When I place expectations on people I am continually disappointed.
I have decided that I am accountable only for my own actions and to fulfill my own roles. I am desperately trying not to place expectations on people. If I don’t expect you will and you don’t then I am not disappointed. That is your cross to bear. Have no fear for when the Zombies come they are looking to “eat brains” You’ll be safe huddled in the corner with all of your broken promises and unfulfilled tasks.
I am learning the word No. It’s a little foreign but I like the way it rolls off my lips. No I cannot do that. No I am sorry I have my own commitments. No you will have to find someone else.
No No No.
So in expecting less I will not end up doing more. I like this concept. Here’s to hoping (but not expecting) that it will work! Taking the leap…
7 thoughts on “Expectant”
I gave up having expectations from others. I think we all get busy and bite off more than we can chew. I try to meet expectations but I do and have said no. I have had some crazy expectations asked of me.
Haha I bet. Thanks for the comment. 🙂
Even I am trying to say ‘No’, although watching the movie ‘Yes! man’ hasn’t helped the effort! And what you have discovered about expectations is true and I liked how you were able to express the reasons for expectations, which for us In all frankness, seem sane and real! It is really hard to carry on with disappointment of people taking you for granted or having not given back enough, although here too, expecting is our responsibility and the consequences, ours! And I loved the quote! Keep writing! 🙂
It would be great if you find time to read my post for today’s prompt: Yes, I Flipped The Flip Flop.
Yes it is definitely a balance, a constant struggle for tjose of us with accountability. You are one of the good ones, I can tell.